Do you wish you could just skip the holiday season? I remember wishing I could do just that during the first (and several) holiday seasons following the loss of my brother on Thanksgiving. I wish I could sit on this bench and talk to him today.
Grief is complicated and unique for everyone. Grief is always evolving and at times the feelings seem to be out of our control.
However, there are things you can do to help alleviate some of that conflict you may be experiencing.
How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays
Set Boundaries with Holiday Events
This will be easier this year due to the COVID restrictions most states are implementing no Holiday gatherings unless it’s with your immediate family. You can participate and not participate in whatever feels right for you. Finding a balance between engaging and not pushing yourself is important.
Tune Into Your Grief Emotions
You may experience both negative and positive feelings during the holidays while grieving and that is OK. Be kind to yourself and remember that all feelings can coexist.
Identify Grief Coping Skills
Consider creating a list of go-to coping skills to use. Some examples of coping skills are deep breathing, taking a walk, journaling, listening to music, practicing yoga, and saying positive affirmations.
Volunteer/Do Something Charitable
Helping others helps alleviate your sadness while bringing joy into someone else’s life who needs it.
Ask For Help When Struggling with Grief
It is important to seek support from friends, family, coworkers and professionals if needed.
Please remember that there is no right or wrong way to approach the holiday season following the loss of a loved one. Be kind to yourself and try to take it one day at a time and one feeling at a time.